My Sister Is Mad At Me For No Reason

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Fighting among siblings is inevitable. Whether for reasons like favoritism from parents to sibling rivalry and competition, there are times when one sibling will be mad at another sibling.

More likely than not, there is a valid reason why your sister is mad at you that you simply haven’t realized yet. It’s also possible that your sister is just generally mad and takes it out on you instead of actually being mad at you.

Read on to learn more about why your sister might be mad and what you might be able to do about it.

How Do You Talk About it?

Talking about these situations with your sister may be intimidating, but it can be easier than you think. Choose your battles by waiting until you are both getting along and are in a neutral setting.

Once you muster up the courage, you can say something along the lines of “I feel that you get mad at me sometimes, and I don’t understand why. Can you point out what it is I do or say that angers you?”

Generally, you want to approach your sister without blaming her. However, that doesn’t necessarily mean you should become submissive or shift the blame entirely to yourself.

 

What if She Doesn’t Want to Talk About it?

You have to realize that not everything is always about you, especially when it concerns siblings like your sister. If your sister doesn’t want to talk to you about why she is mad, she doesn’t have to, and we suggest that you respect her space.

Give her time to come to terms with her anger but make sure that you aren’t a target for that anger while she figures it out. If possible, mention that you are willing to learn how to be better if you are making her angry but set a date for that discussion in the future.

 

Should You Avoid Her for a While?

Don’t think of it as avoiding her. Instead, think about it as giving her the space she needs to figure out why she is mad (in the case of more irrational anger) and how to properly deal with her anger.

Unless she reaches out to you for help in solving this anger crisis, yes, it is best to leave her alone for a while.

Because most bouts of anger are fleeting in nature, your sister may approach you again to apologize for her anger toward you within as little as a few hours. Other times, it may take days, but it should never become a long-term issue.

 

How Can You Find Out Why is She Mad?

As we discussed earlier, the best time to find out why your sister is mad is when the two of you are getting along, not in the heat of the moment when she is angry.

If she refuses to tell you why she is or was mad, she may be embarrassed about it or not want to concern you with intimate details of her personal life. Try not to push the envelope if this appears to be the case.

Should you be dead set on finding out why she gets mad, you might be able to discover the reason by talking to other family members or mutual friends.

 

Things You Shouldn’t Do

When it comes to talking to your sister about why she is mad, there are several things you should avoid if you don’t want to strain your relationship even further.

 

• Don’t respond to her anger with your own anger; this will only agitate you and escalate the situation.
• Avoid placing the blame on her and making yourself the victim (even if that may be the case) because that will only make your sister defensive.
• Don’t cut off your sister completely if she is only briefly angry with you. That can come across as petty and unreasonable.

 

Final Thoughts on Sister Being Mad At You For No Reason

It is easy to dismiss your sister’s anger as crazy female hormones or an angsty teenager phase, but this is shortsighted and close-minded. Chances are that your sister has a perfectly valid reason for being angry, and you may or may not be the reason for her anger.

Contrary to what many people think in the heat of the moment, trying to figure out why your sister is angry or how to be better during a fight is not what you should be doing.

Allow your sister to have space for herself and have an open discussion when both of you are calm and collected.

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